Wait - Was That a Productive Conversation?

As we sat looking at people walking through our open house the other day, my wife and I sat there wondering aloud about our future. We also provided voice-over for the people walking in and out, which was kind of funny and fun. 

Anyway, as of my recent diagnosis, I've come to see that our marriage is like this: I am an ENFP with ADD (probably) and she is an ISTJ (probably) with some kind of disorder that makes everything everyone else's fault but she just has to grin and bear it (probably).  I brought this to her attention with the question - now that we know (not that we didn't before), but now that we know we're so opposite and potentially handicapped, why aren't you - my beloved wife  - doing anything about it. 

We went around and around with the same kinds of conversational snippets we've been sharing for almost a decade. The good news is that I didn't yell or anything, and I was more objective to her comments, responding to them within her logic (showing it was fucking flawed, I might add). We both agreed that if we didn't love one another we'd have divorced long ago. And we both agreed that we dont really have any answers as to why. She acknowledged her half-hearted attempts in the past and said she'd be interested in seeing Shelley. 

That's something we both can work with. 

I also mentioned that our 10 year anniversary is coming up - in 13 months - and we need to get our shit together so we can have an awesome party. I think on some level, despite our pain and frustration, we're both very proud of making a difficult marriage work well this long. In the end, we're really happy together and enjoy each other's company. And, that simple thing is probably the best of what is holding us together. 

Hopefully I can get an appointment with Shelley soon and hopefully it goes well. I told my wife that he doesnt take sides and is looking for a reason to beat the shit out of me, b/c he things ADD spouses are "THE WORST"  I dont care, I just want success in my life!!!!