Seeing Her For the First Time

• overview of the blow-up
• duh; she's not capable of what I've been demanding
• what that means for me:
• make well-informed and thoughtful plans for the whole family
• look into how to be better at EQ in myself and others  (great article: http://www.forbes.com/sites/keldjensen/2012/04/12/intelligence-is-overrated-what-you-really-need-to-succeed/2/ )
• Look for ways to "rise above" those needs that WILL NOT BE MET - EVER IN MY MARRIAGE: sex, compassion, empathy, openness, passion, intellectual curiosity
• Start Defining my brand: professionally leverage my good-looks; charming, listens &is helpful for the small town types in A NON SEXY OR SOLICITOUS WAY; ideas about what SUCCESS looks like short-; near-; long-term. 
• Donts: neediness, emotional reactions, impulsiveness
• Do's: make daily drill more realistic; nail those then expand.
• here's how
• What that means for my family
• that's the next post