Down, but not out (?)

The last couple of weeks - really from mid July - have been a slow dwindling of connection between my wife and I. Actually, more than once, I've allowed myself to accept the fact that my marriage is really over.

I booked an appt with a lawyer (but didnt go). I took off my wedding ring. I carefully began to analyze my options for leaving. And then, I went upstairs and told her that I couldn't take it anymore and that I was leaving.

We spoke very little in the past week. Finally, yesterday, I said that at a time when we should be talking more, we were talking barely at all. We began a very awkward conversation which seemed to meander back and forth between accusations and honesty.

We left off that she was very insecure about many things - her body, career, communication, life plans, social plans, the house, etc.

I asked her what my weakness was, and she said the biggest was how poor my grasp of handling relationships and that it affected the marriage.

It's a major revelation, but I dont know really where that leaves us. I keep coming back to her take-it-or-leave it position as it relates to us...