Last night, I laid out the plan that my wife and I should just be good friends, b/c essentially, that's all her personality can be.
She protested, probably b/c she felt something was being taken away from her, and she highlighted that I had made a plan for how to spend time together and what I would accomplish, but I wasn't following through.
She also was upset because she said she'd been trying hard to do more - and my comments certainly didn't show appreciation or recognition for that.
Here's the bottom line: I need to get better at setting expectations. I still am not planning things out correctly and allowing a sense of feeling overwhelmed to force me into taking everything on. And, predictably, I capsize, get overwhelmed, depressed, lost in a sea of to-dos, and all the rest.
Part of that challenge has to do with improving on my time management. MindTools.com looks like it can be very helpful. According to a quick test I just took, I need major work on scheduling, handling interruptions, and procrastination.
The other part is going to the gym and exercising. When I do that, it powers the whole system. When I dont, basically everything breaks down, steadily. I haven't been to the gym in over two months - almost three. When I add meds into the mix, I'm operating at a very high level.
I think I need to send a note to my wife and get consensus on that and move forward with it. it's no secret that I am assigning myself lots of work to do, but I'm terrible at scheduling it all.
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