But why...?

Look at the fundamental problems that we declared in the early days of our relationship as it relates to communication follow through, TV watching, socializing. money saving, and teamwork.

List out the issues without the positives that we experienced in the first several years of our marriage from april of o3 to April of 09. Essentially it's an ark from being hopeful and essentially ignoring our weaknesses and experiencing lots of positive things around money travel socializing and quality time together which gradually became constrained toward the end of that time frame.

Then chronicle the things that happened from April of 09 to April of 13: our second child, both getting laid off, massive financial impacts, associated stress, my melt down, being diagnosed, increased fighting and all of those hardships.

Highlight the ways that our original weaknesses were always present but became more obvious and problematic in the latter years as times got tough.

The above can be context for highlighting the need to work better and to identify specific problems in priority order within my new role .