Charlie's Take

Update / Issues Raised
 - I've approached my wife in such a needy way, so often that she's burned out on listening to me
 - I need approval and fans, not friends
   - that's why 4goodmedia shuttering was so terrible for me
 - There are bigger issues at stake, however, this situation isn't sustainable
 - I lower my estimation of how others see me so that I wont be dissapointed
 - not really sure who I am
 - I make false promises to myself and others all the time, perpetuating my issues
 - I am confused about self-esteem and self-worth. They are two different things.

Charlie's Take:
 - shifting emotion away from the negative can create room for other emotions, be mindful of that.
 - surfacing emotion (without indulging too much) but then collaborate on effective outcomes
 - don't leave ppl hanging when you are going to be late!
 - my neediness is exhausting for others AND it's like empty calories for me; wont actually fill me up with the love I seek
 - key question: "how can Eric take ownership and contribute?"
 - I dont believe the positive reinforcement about me, partly b/c I dont know how to "append" it to my self image
  - I am confused about self-esteem and self-worth. They are two different things.
  - another key question for all involved, when dealing with an obstacle / issue: "what would be the most effective outcome, given all we know now?"  Third Way
 - Ownership = a sense of accomplishment, which is a driver of happiness.
 - These little crisis situations have huge implications. If we dont ask how to be effective, then it's a self-fulfilling prophesy of negativity. We prove the wrong things right. I shouldn't be so narrow in defining what's effective (i.e. getting my phone vs. accommodating my wife AND getting my phone) and collaborating toward that end.
 - obstacles are just opportunities for collaboration with her and others.