These issues prevent me from making clear & sound judgements. I tend to favor approvals from the outside and when I dont get that, I feel profoundly alone and abandoned.
I guess we all wrestle with this kind of stuff, but I am starting to see my self esteem limitations as why I can't face certain challenges. It's why I disregard those who cannot give to me. They are doing to me what I've been doing to me for a while.
No wonder I am so eager to join in conversations, relationships and even groups where people are "lost". They come across like they like me and welcome me into a caring circle. It's like they're going to take care of me.
Nope. They like me because I am coming across like I'm going to take care of them.
Self esteem - regardless of what is happening to me - is something I need to become much more expert at. When it comes to being more self-sufficient, I need to do it with a purpose and focus on others - not just from a tasks perspective, but in a behavioral way as well:
- Taking care of myself and my stuff
- Being positive, loving and motivating/helpful
- Create a safe, open line of communication. Communicate when/how she wants. Dont be edgy or sarcastic around her.
- Engage in her interests, ideas
- Ease tension w/o losing the point. Laugh at myself.
- Nullify the "I have to do everything" argument: divvy up the chores
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