Marriage Update

Well, our couple's therapist thought I was full of shit, essentially, that I would say - 'no worries about any of the stuff I've been demanding, I'll just focus on improving myself within the context of being a husband and father. '


But, that's exactly what I want to do, b/c:

1. It's the only way we'll have any sanity in this relationship
2. I need to grow up and take on more responsibility, anyway
3. My wife isn't taking the level of responsibility for our house, relationship, finances, and social relationships that I once thought - or idealized - that she was.
4. There is a DIM  - 1%  - possibility of some kind of by-product of a sexy and intimate relationship between us, vs. nothing. (but that's still in the positive category)
5. It's feasible, given the way I've outlined my approach. 

The issue is HOW. How do I execute?

Essentially, I am transitioning from a I'll-show-her type approach, which has a lot of resentment and distance to it. That's counter productive, given how sensitive she is.

So, I need to look for ways to position these changes as a "free upgrade" (versus making it any kind of challenge or sacrifice) + be very patient, understanding, empathetic + continually remind her of the state of the union (we can actually learn and become better from these tough times).